Hard news
In the novel “The Other Wes Moore” the character Wes Moore that ended up in prison explains everything he has been through from his childhood to adulthood so far and it seems that it has always been a bit crazy. One important detail I've learned so far that has been revealed to me is that at a young age Wes conceived a child with a girl named Alicia he met on the school bus. They started out as friends but their relationship quickly progressed to more. He confided in his brother about his predicament since he also had a baby on the way but unfortunately his brother spilled the beans to their mother at a family dinner with the mother of his child present at the event. His mother was devastated to hear the news because she could slowly see her second son turning into her first. Young, unprepared, and unfocused on the bright future she wanted for him. She asked the new coming mom if this was true and she confirmed, unsure on how to accept the news, Wes's mom continued to host the dinner.
I too have had to break hard news to someone back in high school that was close to me even though I knew it would hurt them. Even though it leaves a pit in my stomach to the thought of hurting them I knew it would have hurt them even more if they would have found out from someone else. Even keeping what I knew as a secret whether or not someone else would've told them just didn’t sit right with me. So I thought it better to just come out with it and deal with the aftermath as best as I could. The way I worked up the courage to break the news was by getting advice from anyone I could. Hearing opinions on the matter helped me figure out the best route to take when explaining things. It made me feel a little better knowing that others understood the situation and even though they didn't say the things I wanted to hear like “don’t tell them” or “ it’s not that big of a deal”, they still knew the right things to say such as, “it’ll get better” or “don’t worry” or even “they will understand eventually”. Another way I was able to work up the courage was by going over different scenarios in my head of the conversation. Avoiding any type of conflict as best as I could. I didn’t want to sugar coat anything, however I also didn’t want to be too harsh or insincere. In the end everything thankfully turned out great, it took time but they understood and forgave the situation. What I could say I learned from this experience would be to always tell the truth no matter what you think the consequences or outcome may be. Because being truthful feels much better than holding secrets, it feels like a great weight is lifted off your shoulders.
Me in high school.
Hi Paris! I appreciate you sharing a personal experience that sounded difficult for you at the time. I don't like confrontation myself, so the thought of having to possibly bring up some "bad news" to someone makes me feel nervous and anxious. I would have done the same thing you did which was seek advice from others and play through possible scenarios of different outcomes. I'm glad you found the courage to say what you had to say and that everything turned out fine! Like you said, being truthful is so much better than holding secrets. It sounds like overall you were able to have a positive experience from the whole situation.
ReplyDeleteHi Paris, thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteBeing honest can teach one's self respect and help others. It can also inspire people to do the same. You can lift a lot of weight off your shoulders when you use and come clean with the truth. I believe that one small lie can have a big impact in one's life and those around them. Therefore, regardless of the consequences, I believe that coming clean is the right decision.If one person lies, then another will likely do the same, and this can cause you to get caught up in a big lie, which will be hard to escape if you don't tell the truth. People who think that it's alright to lie should think again, as the truth will always come out regardless of how hard they try to hide it.